There is a misconception about the Bible prohibiting polygamy. The Bible allows polygamy in both the Old Testament and the New Testament. A brief look at polygamy in the Old Testament let us look at some of the verses from the Old Testament that allows polygamy:
In Exodus 21:10, a man can marry an infinite amount of women without any limits to how many he can marry.
In 2 Samuel 5:13 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, 14:3, King David had six wives and numerous concubines.
In 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines.
In 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon's son Jeroboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines.
In Deuteronomy, 21:15 "If a man has two wives, and he loves one but not the other and both bear him sons...." There are a lot more verses from the Old Testament that allow polygamy, but I think that the above are sufficient to prove my point.
Jesus said "Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. I tell you the truth, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. (Matthew 5:17-18)
Christians always say, oh this law does not exist in the New Testament; it is only the Old Testament. Well, according to Matthew 5:17-18 above, we clearly see that Jesus honored the Old Testament, and forces Christians to follow the unmodified laws of it that have not been replaced by newer ones in the New Testament. The Old Testament as we clearly see above does indeed allow polygamy without any doubt! There is not a single verse from the New Testament that prohibits polygamy. Christians usually mistakenly present the following verses from the Bible to prove that polygamy in the New Testament is not allowed:
1. Matthew 19:1-12 "1. When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan.
2. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
3. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"
4. "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator `made them male and female,'
5. And said, `for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?
6. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
7. "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"
8. Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
9. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
10. The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry."
11. Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.
12. For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
Polygamy may be abhorrent to most Americans, but in the global community, it is common, normal and accepted. ‘Although the percentage of men in the world who have more than one wife is relatively small, as many as a third of the world's population belongs to a community that allows it,’ there are many plural marriages in Africa, the Middle East and in Asia. The ancient Hebrews, as portrayed in the Old Testament, clearly believed in multiple partnerships and this practice is nowhere condemned by God. The very first marriage, Adam and Eve, in many ways serves as a prototype, if you will. Notice that God knew that it was not good that Adam is alone and God provided for Adam a "help meet" (counter part that was a complement to Adam, Gen. 2: 18). Observe how God did not simply provide another man, but for Adam God made woman, the "glory of the man" (Gen. 2:18, I Cor.11:7). Hence, same sex marriage is not part of God’s arrangement for the marriage bond (see Rom. 1: 22ff.). Polygamy has been practiced by humankind for thousands of years. Many of the ancient Israelites were polygamous, some having hundreds of wives. In the Bible, King Solomon(S) is said to have had seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines. David's (Dawuud) had ninety-nine wives and Jacob (Yacub) had four.
Early society had not put any restrictions on the number of wives a man could or should have in Africa this is a European way of life. Jesus was not known to have spoken against polygamy. As recent as the 17th century, polygamy was practiced and accepted by the Christian Church. The Mormons (Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Day Saints) has allowed and practiced polygamy in the United States.
Monogamy was introduced into Christianity at the time of Paul when many revisions took place in Christianity. This was done in order for the church to conform to the Greco-Roman culture where men were monogamous but owned many slaves who were free for them to use: in other word, unrestricted polygamy. Early Christians invented ideas that women were "full of sin" and man was better off to "never marry." Since this would be the end of humankind, these same people compromised and said, "marry only one."
Many times in the modern societies when relations are strained, the husband simply deserts his wife. Then he cohabits with a prostitute or other immoral woman without marriage.
Actually, there are three kinds of polygamy practiced in Western societies:
Serial polygamy, that is, marriage, divorce, marriage, divorce and so on any number of times. A man married to one woman but having and supporting one or more mistresses. An unmarried man having a number of mistresses, Islam condones polygamy. Wars cause the number of women to greatly exceed the number of men. In a monogamous society these women, left without husbands or support, and resort to prostitution, illicit relationships with married men resulting in illegitimate children with no responsibility on the part of the father, or lonely unmarried women or widowhood.
Some Western men take the position that monogamy protects the rights of women. But are these men really concerned about the rights of women? The society has many practices that exploit and suppress women, leading to women’s liberation movements from the suffragettes of the early twentieth century to the feminists of today. The truth of the matter is that monogamy protects men, allowing them to “play around" without responsibility. Easy birth control and easy legal abortion has opened the door of illicit sex to women and she has been lured into the so-called sexual revolution. But she is still the one who suffers the trauma of abortion and the side effects of birth control methods. Taking aside the plagues of venereal disease, herpes and AIDS, the male continues to enjoy himself free of worry. Men are the ones protected by monogamy while women continue to be victims of men’s desires. Polygamy is very much opposed by the male dominated society because it would force men to face up to responsibility and fidelity. It would force them to take responsibility for their polygamous inclinations and would protect and provide for women and children.
The countries where polygamy is illegal, large number of people practice extra-marital sex or live with a mistress. The number of mistress may go up to a dozen or so. The Western society and the church have closed their eyes to this particular sinful act in their own country and criticize Muslim countries for polygamy. "If you fear that you will not deal fairly by the orphans, marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them, then only one or one that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice." (Qur’an 4:3)
The Qur’an allows a man to marry more than one woman but only if he can deal justly with them. "You will never be able to deal justly between wives however much you desire (to do so). But (if you have more than one wife) do not turn altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense." (Qur’an 4:129)
In Conclusion, I say peace to all, Peace and Love to all people of the planet Earth who want to know the truth of the so-called Black-man, woman and child of the Earth for they are also the founders of civilization, Peace!